Chiropractor...??

I just found out today that my partner took our son to a chirpractor today. Not that she was going to take him, but that she ALREADY had taken him. I was not impressed. Sometimes, I am not sure if I am just being sensitive, but I felt like I had been cut out of the decision process. That telling me or having my ok wasn't important. I know this is not really the case, but it was still pretty tough to swallow and stay calm about....

"You're not a mom right now...you're the partner"

"You're not a mom right now...you're the partner" - this was just one of the comments I received from a friend shortly after my partner gave birth to our son in March of this year. Hmmm...really?? I was kind of shocked to hear this from a close friend of my wife's, whom I had come to know and love, after all, if she thought this, would other people go there too?



Being the non-biological mother is a test. At least it feels like one on a daily basis. I am proving my ability everytime I pick Eamon up. Is there something different about how I hold him? How I feed him? How I change him? Will people notice or think I am not natural with him? Is it obvious that there is no blood connection to link me to my son? The paranoia sets in...


We take Eamon out with us a lot and I am adament that I be the one to hold him/push him/carry him. I think it's my way of staking a claim to him. A way of saying "This is my child! I have just as strong a connection with him as the woman who gave birth to him!". I am incredibly lucky that my wonderful wife, Ann is ok with this - she encourages me to tell her my feelings, to be open and honest - to feel free and able to be Eamon's mom in my own way.

Yes, I am the other mother. The non-biological mother. I am Eamon's mother.